A friend of mine at the gym at school got sponsored not too long ago. He does physique stuff (hasn’t actually competed, but is still jacked enough to pick up a sponsorship. Pretty legit), so we come to a discussion with totally different paradigms. He has helped me a lot with “feeling” muscles that don’t seem to want to fire properly, and I help him with approaching strength-based programming. It’s a surprisingly productive relationship for a commercial gym.
I have my own personal goals that are much less open ended than being strong. I specifically want to be able to do certain things and feel a certain way. I do not understand this open ended quest to be “strong”. Strength without purpose to me seems like a potential waste of time and possible injuries.
Heck, I don’t get any open ended goal. It’s kinda like just saying I want to be rich. I don’t. I want to be secure, with a house paid off in 15 years, and the ability to at least have the option of only working part time. Just chasing an idea of rich is going to cause some unneeded sacrifices and perhaps even lose some great opportunities because I didn’t understand what risks I could take, trying to sock away money with no real end goal.
And also, I don’t worry about others and what they’re doing because their needs and life path are not mine. I only worry about how I’m achieving my goals and if I’m doing my best to get to those goals. And also throwing in there reflection time to re evaluate those goals, for wants and needs change over time, you need time to think and make sure yesterday’s goal is still today’s goal.
Mentally rehearsing tough spots in workouts or competitions can be a useful tool to beat those obstacles when you meet them in real life. Here’s a formula to help you build an effective script for visualizing success.
I’ve used visualization differently to get myself through a workout. I used it to distract myself, think about something else entirely. There’s some times I can’t remember how I’d progressed to that point (IE on a run), but I felt fine.
I’m about to tell you why I believe traditional goal setting might be bringing frustration and anxiety upon you and decreasing your quality of life. Furthermore, I’ll show you how a simple focus shift can fix the problem in a matter of minutes, resulting in better results in the gym and living a more enjoyable life in the process.
To illustrate my point, let me start by sharing a very personal story with you.
Recently, someone started coming out on my weekend [cycling] group rides. Saturday is much more competitive, and this person can barely hang on in the warm up. But they’re determined to ride with the A group, even though I’ve consistently encountered them before the 2/3rd mark of the route. They’re so burnt out, they can’t hang onto the B group.
I have no problem with their goal. I have the same one. I don’t agree with their approach, but all the power to them. I’m still healing, but I’m trying to get back to leading B group. Only then is it worth it to me to bother trying to hold onto A group. I might not ever get there – I was having my doubts I could before, or at least not without putting effort into training.
There’s goals and dreams – it takes honest reflection to know the difference.
Everyone who loses weight successfully overcomes a set of similar challenges. But let us be honest: successful weight loss is relatively uncommon, making many of these challenges unheard of. Consequently, when they arise, you might think you’re doing things wrong. But you’re not, and here’s why.
If people are really, truly concerned about you – take a step back and re-examine what you’re doing and why. I ask for this pause for self-reflection because that could be life with an eating disorder. It’s a fine line we walk when we’re talking about weight loss. I just want to be sure we remember the other side of the coin, and why losing weight in a healthy, sustainable way is so important.
Personally, I haven’t dealt with a lot of #3. Rather the opposite – they would not comment on my progress. I’ve overheard chatter about me, but few will say something to me.
Regarding #4, I never thought of the journey being over. I had ideas for what thought I’d look like, but watched over time to see the weight loss seemed to favour one side over the other. It was top down at the start, but more recently has gone between left and right sides. But it was a while back that I considered my goals were quite likely due to photoshop, and I was quite happy with my progress. Part of that came from being more focused on eating for proper nutrition and fueling, so I was distracted. I’m still working out what’s best for the diet, and surprisingly I’m still seeing weight loss results but I am getting concerned about fueling/energy/ketosis.